When Words Did What Alcohol Could Not!!!

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there."

I exactly remember that day. It was a sunny morning of January. The weather was cold and the sun was beautifully complementing the overall season with its much adored warmth. However all I needed was a little more warmth that could hold me emotionally and can penetrate within my soul to bring me out of the trauma that I had faced in last few months.

My girlfriend of 5 years had ditched me a few months back. I had absorbed myself completely in to alcohol and weeds. I was devastated and completely off the grid. My family was clueless about what all was happening and my friends have made all their best efforts to comfort me in some sense but to futility.

I had lost all the faith and trust in anybody and everybody. But there was someone who not for a day had left my side. He was my best friend since childhood. He knew me better than anyone else and in all these situations; his response by far was the most mature.

However he has to leave for his hometown a few back ago and today he was supposed to come back. Also while he was back there, our results for semester’s exams have come and I have failed in 3 out of five subjects. I haven’t told anyone though I know all my friends knew my roll number and they must have known the results. I was more in depression than ever before.

My cell phone rang. I picked it up.

“Hi, how are you?” it was Rohit.

“Just fine and when did you return back from home”, I asked

“Just an hour ago” quipped Rohit, he continued “I was thinking if we can meet at the domino’s near your flat. I am carving for the Pizza. See you there in half-an-hour. Ok!”

He said it all in one sentence to avoid any reluctance from my side. I knew I had to agree.

“Ok, I will see you their then”

After exactly half an hour I came out of my house and walked to the nearby Pizza outlet.

For initial few months I have completely avoided these places as they constantly remind me of our dates and my time spend with her. But gradually you come in terms with these things.

I walked in the store.

He was already sitting there with a smile. We shared a warm hug and took our places in front of each other.

 I was preparing myself for some hard hitting lecture though he has never lectured me ever before like everyone else did. But this time I guess it was too much and I was all ready to be scolded.

He started the conversation and kept on talking about various topics like his home stay, all the good times with family, Maa k haath ka khaana and all that stuff. For a moment I thought he doesn’t know about my exam results.

I was feeling a little free. He made some very funny joke and I laughed out really loudly. This was probably first time in several months that I could manage a laugh.

Then he said, “Avinaash, see it’s not that tough to laugh. What exactly good do you think you are doing to yourself with all those liquor and drugs. It is just into your mind. You do not need them but you have them because you have seen guys doing such things in movies or have heard such stories from friends of friends. It is not you. Why are you trying so hard to be what you are not?”

I was staring at him blankly.

He kept talking, “ Listen, a girl leaving you is no good reason to mourn. It’s just the society and the circle that you live in which makes you think that you need to mourn and this was probably the love of your life that you have lost. Let me tell you it was not any such thing. It was just a normal relation that was meant to end and the best you can do is forget it. So be it for now, forget, flush and move on!”

I was still absorbing when he stood up and asked me to walk out with him and said, “Remember Avinash, hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies. Don’t let your hopes die and you will one day achieve all you desire.”

He left me with all these words and I have never felt any better in last whole week than this.

Sometimes, its just the words and company of some loved one’s that can make all the difference in life.

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Understanding Life & All that it takes to survive it!!!

Life is a journey a journey of pride and prejudice. It is very important that you follow the basics and let it take its course of action. It is always there that you churn out a plan and it comes out to be different from the reality. It is obvious that we want to make it go our way but it is always not possible that such thing happen. If we could make everything go our way the life would have been very simple but not that great at all. It is obviously our journey to the top but is not oblivious to the facts that drive our day to day routine things. But obviously enough it is only our deeds that make the whole story complete.

As if not very much different from the facts and figures. Being edgy has its own concerns and inhibitions. It is also not possible to make all people work alike. We do not need to be choosy when it comes to finding out the best and brightest things in life. We have been selective with our friends and foes. We have ensured that their demands to bow down to bend the rules become one of ours. We have been extremely careful with the usual stuff of encircling the giants of the world. It is fine and good to let the marvels happen and make the best use of our skills. Is it not desirable that we access the tough facts in the easy ways and make the smiles look more beautiful? There have been times of every type in this world.

We have been happy and sad, good and bad, sane and stupid but everything that glitters is not gold. We have to employ extra effort to gain reverence for our deed. It is no easy a task to survive in this stone hear ted world. People like to use others as things and through them out of their lives when the purpose is finished. Might be the divine cycle of karma would take its course over such ungrateful mortals. It is very stupid to even think that such analogy is justifiable.

The Everyday Struggle,

Sometimes Sunny, Sometimes Dull,

Taking new journey's every day,

Fighting hard to start fresh from the null.

Making every day count,

Trying hard for dreams,

Inner cries and screams,

And the hope that gleams,

Still not so easy it seems.

May be easy may be hard,

But we are our life’s only guard,

Not a shred of any option,

But to play only the right cards!!!

The World out there is wise and young, just like our dreams and aspirations. To achieve our goal we have to keep fighting, keep living and keep loving. So Look Up, Dream and give your best to turn them in to a reality.

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The Day I Left Home To Chase My Dreams!!!

Life isn’t always what we expect it to be. No one gets everything and whatever little we get certainly needs to be earned, by us or by those who love us enough to pass those luxuries on to us.

It happened just after my boards exams for class 12^th were over. School life was finished but as they say the struggle has just begun. My hometown is a small district in eastern side of Uttar Pradesh. We have almost well to do schools up to senior secondary grade but nothing substantial institute over it. So one way or the other everyone has to just move away to some other town in search of better education and future.

It was my time to go on that pursuit. I always wanted to become a computer engineer. For that I decided to go to Kanpur and take a year gap to prepare myself for tough IIT entrance exams.

I always thought that it would be great fun to stay away from home without any restrictions, questions and rules. I was all excited about going to Kanpur.

It was 11th of May & the year was 2008. Everything was in order and it was the day to leave my Home and my City. Earlier only my parents and I have made a one day visit to Kanpur and we have finalized the Hostel & Coaching. So today it was just me leaving the house with all my bag and baggage. With everyone’s blessings I embarked on the journey.

Kanpur is approximately 4 hour ride from my hometown. While riding in that car all alone I was surrounded by thousands of thoughts, thoughts about life, future, career, family & friends.

I was amazed at the irony that life so effortlessly presents us with- Leave a good life with family, friends and happiness to achieve you career goals so that you can live a good life with family, friends and happiness.

We leave exactly the same things in order to acquire them at some later stage all by ourselves. And this is what creates all the difference. Previously when we had it, everything was inherited & now we look forward to earn them all by our own.

This is what makes the smell of success so very lucrative, that message of your first salary being credited to your account and feel of that bundle of notes in your hand is beyond description. It is certainly an out of world thing and all our education, struggles and learning's collapse in that one single moment. It somehow becomes the essence of our existence.

I was now finally in Kanpur. I checked into the hostel that was already reserved for me and moved into my room. It was a single room complete with a single bed and a small study table. Indeed this was all furniture that this small room could all accommodate.

After completing 18 years of my life, here I can see how I was back to a shell in solitude to achieve something big and better. Life is all about these big and small changes, taking decisions that are hard, moving on paths that are tough and traversing goals that are infinite.

We all have our beginnings at some phase of time and only the naive leave a chance to start a new beginning. A Change can Change your life so Start a New Life today.

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